In my post from January 31st, I noted that I wanted to focus my time and attention for my clients this year on “RESILIENCE”. What do I mean by “resilience”? The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines the word as “an ability to recover from or adjust easily to misfortune or change”.
That is all very well and good. I think though, that when we are truly resilient, we can do more than simply adjust or recover to change or misfortune. Do you recall the refrain from the song “Survivor” by Destiny’s Child?
I’m a survivor (what), I’m not gon’ give up (what)
I’m not gon’ stop (what), I’m gon’ work harder (what)
I’m a survivor (what), I’m gonna make it (what)
I will survive (what), keep on survivin’ (what)
I know that’s supposed to be an inspiring song based on the TV show “Survivor”, but I always had a critique…why the focus on just surviving? That always seemed like such an unappealing compromise. A protoplasm survives. So does a plant. It exists in the sunshine, but when drought strikes it starts to wither and turn brown. If it doesn’t get water soon, the plant dies. The ones that last the longest between rain have the best chance at surviving long enough to pass their genetic material on before they die. Is that really what we want? Just to survive before we die, like a plant? That is a scarcity mindset.
As life-affirmed, radiant beings, we need more than just to survive. The end goal should be to THRIVE, and resilience strategies have the capability to get us to that desired state. “Shift into Thrive: Six Strategies for Women to Unlock the Power of Resiliency” by Lynn Schmidt and Kevin Nourse is a book that offers several tools for developing strong resilience strategies and practices that can help you not only survive, but thrive! As a coach, I work with many of my clients on developing and then implementing these strategies, so I highly recommend this book to you.
I will leave you with this quote, and then a question to take into your day:
“My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor, and some style.” ~ Maya Angelou
Question for my readers: What do you need today to thrive?